Faith Michele, the first thing I thought of when I read your post was that he is controlling. By what you posted it sounds like he assumes he needs control of the household. Your little flaw, you let him. I have been there and through something similar. Not with a Southern Man either. Until you stand up to him and have that heart to heart and follow through and mean it, I don't think anything will get better.
I think it's natural in a relationship married or not we (us women) tend to want to mother and take care of the household and the family and then in time it is expected of us. I don't think that there is anything wrong with that but it does get tiresome and when you need support everyone should be supportive to you and pitch in and help with the chores, even your husband. Part of his job is to take care of you whole heartedly as well.
I work full time, raise 6 children, and have 2 big dogs. I do the majority of housework and cooking as well but the difference is when I’m tired and want to throw hot dogs on the table or have my husband clean the toilets or do the dishes because I need a break then he does it.
My suggestion and opinion is you sit him down and like the rest of the folks here said, have a heart to heart, not yelling, tell him how you REALLY feel. It's not all his fault, tell him you don't mind taking care of your family and are proud to be a mom and a good wife but you expect the same in return and won't take anything less. Tell him you EXPECT his support. If he truly loves you he will see your not just being a witch that you just need his help. I don't think you need to change him, I just think you need to guide his ways a little. We all need guidance from time to time. I wish you the best of luck and keep your chin up and stay strong!!
I apologize if anything offended you, I certainly did not mean to. I'm just stating my opinion from my past experience.
I want to thank you Michele because your post reminded me of what a lucky woman I am to have such a wonderful supportive husband. Yes, I’m talking about BB. Ya'll just don't know him, he is comical and sarcastic but he is a wonderful man. I think maybe some of you need to lighten up a little. I even chuckled at his sarcastic comment because it is not right to accuse just a group of Southern Men with issues. It is just some men in general. lol